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Picking Up Women 101, Module 2

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By now I expect that at least some of you have put the lessons in the first article to good use. If you have, then you get mad props from me and the rest of the illustrious Man Blog Team. No. I don’t care if you crashed and burned an embarassing number of times. It doesn’t matter that up ‘til now you’ve failed to acquire a single phone number. You have at least demonstrated that you have confidence, even if just a smidgen. And that is indispensible if you want to master the art of the pick up. Don’t lose hope. As I’ve said, it is an ART. And as such, it requires refinement and therefore demands practice. Those of you who wanted to try the methods I’ve graciously outlined for you and yet never went ahead with it are in dire need of BALLS. Seriously now, GROW A FREAKING PAIR! No, no, no. I’m not mad, just disappointed. Perhaps it would be best for me to begin by helping you develop some of the internal qualities necessary in picking up women because lord knows you’re so lame you won’t be able to figure this out on your own.

On Being Yourself

You’ve probably heard it a dozen times before, “It’s easy, just be yourself and everything will be ok”. Countless self-help books and supposed gurus swear by it. Dr. Phil has said it. Oprah and her legions have said it. Heck, it’s been said so many goddamn times you might actually believe it to be a plain and simple truth. Well fuck that! Thing is, if who you currently are repel women like the plague, then being yourself is most definitely not the way to go. Follow that advice and for sure, you’d suffer rejection after rejection, until the last vestiges of confidence you actually managed to develop in all your freaking years of existing are completely obliterated. If through experience, you have established that you are not very successful with women then my advice to you is this. Fake it.

Faking it doesn’t mean you have to lie. Don’t say you drive a Porsche if in reality you have an old beaten up sedan which has been in your family since you were watching the Transformers on the telly. What I do mean is imagine how you would act if you did in fact own a Porsche. Then do just that.

Do you know a guy who seems to get all the girls, all the time? Well don’t hate him. Use him. Observe how he acts. Pay close attention to how he talks. Watch his posture. Look at the little details. Done? Now copy him. Act as he would act.

Sounds awfully lame right now doesn’t it? Well, you’re wrong. What I am in fact instructing you to do is to build a template of a guy who gets the girl. And then, by faking it, you will be surprised that you are actually stepping into the template you have created. It’s a funny thing, but by faking it, you become it. And the more you do this, the more effective it will be.

With that in mind, to handle the issue of your pathetic lack of confidence, skip the self help tapes or books and for crying out loud man, stop watching Oprah! Instead, observe a confident man and just fake it.

On Practice and the Safe Approach

Now, the key here is practice. I understand how difficult that might be for the lot of you. So I will share with you one of the safest yet most effective approaches. It is safe because it provides you with an extremely viable exit point. Effective, because it quickly brings a woman’s guard down and it can work in virtually any situation. I call it, the Misdirected Approach.

Women, particularly the extremely hot ones, are pretty much used to guys walking up to them, showering them with compliments or if in a bar, wanting to buy them a drink or whatever. It really isn’t something that will get their attention. In their wickedly complicated minds, it’s absolutely nothing special. So here’s what you do. Check out their accessories. I know it sounds fucking gay but let me finish ok? Look for one particular accessory that stands out. A piece of jewelry for instance. Or their bag or shoes or even their clothes. It doesn’t really matter what you choose so let’s just say you go for the bracelet. You remember your template, step into it and approach girl you have targeted. And then you say something like,

“Uh, I hey there. I was hoping you could help me out. I just noticed your bracelet and it looks great on you. I’m just sure my kid sister would love that. May I ask where you bought it?”

You can say cousin if you don’t have a kid sister. Just make sure you don’t say friend. And for the love of everything sacred DO NOT SAY MOM. This opener is effective because at once, it knocks her off her pedestal. She will think she didn’t grab your attention, her bracelet did. It also knocks down her initial defenses as women simply love talking about accessories. You also present a softer side of yourself because you show that even if you’re in a bar, you actually still thought of your “sister”. This is safe because from there you now have 3 options.

• The first one is the safety. If you fall out of your template or if your confidence lags, just let her finish her anser to your question, thank her and walk away. No crash and burn there. In fact, you walking away will intrigue her. It will fuel her curiousity about you. You could then leave it at that. At least you got some practice. And right now, that’s the whole point. But the best thing about this approach is that it provides you a gap where you can attempt to gather your cojones together and walk up to her again. Your follow up approach for option safety would go a bit like,

“I’m really sorry, I’m just really clueless when it comes to shopping for a girl. If I don’t get her the bracelet, would you have any other suggestions?_ (then pay her a light indirect compliment.) _It’s just that you seem so well put together. You obviously have a knack for fashion and like I said, I’m a bit of a moron in that department.”

And with that, you can pick up where you left off.

• If for instance you’re confidence is sutained, then you could go for option 2 which is, sustaining the moment. If things seem to be going well, then go ahead and keep talking to her. Prolong the conversation. The first part of this series already gave tips on how to do that. Just remember. Interested is interesting. Don’t talk about yourself. Ask questions. Get her to open up. And try to steer the conversation to feelings and not just facts. If things go as planned, you’ll be able to ask for her number by the end of the night, with absolutely no problem.

• The third option is the quick close which you could use if there is some kind of time restriction. You could also use this if you notice that her interest is waning and you’re not quite sure why. It’s a bit dangerous as you run the risk of seeming like you just used your kid sister for a pick up line but if done smoothly enough, she won’t know what hit her. After she answers you’re opening question. Thank her and say something along the lines of,

“Thanks. I’ve been wracking my brains out all week thinking of what to get her. I kinda messed up and never got her anything for her birthday and I just wanted to make up for it in a big way. I’m a complete moron when it comes to shopping for a girl. So this really helps. Hey, is it ok if I get your number? I might need more suggestions and well, I’ve got absolutely no fashion sense, while you seem to have oodles of it. I don’t really have a lot of female friends I can ask help from.”

or if you’re feeling really really really bold, something like,

“I don’t mean to be too forward but I’m really not good at this whole shopping thing. Tell you what, I’ll treat you out to lunch this Sunday, anywhere you want, if you’ll come help me find a nice gift for my sister. We can have coffee afterwards too. How can I reach you?”

Bear in mind though that option 1 and option 2 are safer and are generally more effective. Option 3 has a tendency to bring back a womans defenses. But for the sake of practice, I suggest you try this at least once.

I am certainly hoping that you will put this powerful pick up kung fu technique to good use. It is with a bit of heaviness that I reveal this to the world. This is something I developed myself and has been shared only to the closest of friends. The Misdirection Approach has never, EVER failed me. So don’t just waste it. Now go and make me proud.